Can't Make 'Em See That You're Worth It

You can't make someone want you. You simply can't. It doesn't matter what you say or do, if they don't feel the same, it's just not happening. I don't care if you turn into a wordsmith like Shakespeare or Maya Angelou and spit all your best lines, it won't work. You can be as smart as Einstein, pretty as Zoe Saldana, fine as Idris Elba (wait a minute, this might work), as caring as the Dalai Lama, or as passionate as a dancer who has rent due, all that matters not if the person just does not feel the same way about you.

This is something that a lot of people struggle with at some point or another: trying to get someone to see how great of a person they are. You have all of these damn good qualities, yet can't understand why the person you are most interested in can't see that pool of awesomeness in front of them. Oh, but Lucille and Larry see it. You just don't want them. I get it. So, instead you go out of your way to do thoughtful stuff, like send those nice GM/GN texts (but get no response), invite out to dinner (get shut all the way down), buy those Zaxby's plates with extra sauces (not in your budget), or wire that gas money ($20 account balance) all for that one person who doesn't even care or appreciate what you're doing.

Yet, you do those nice things in hopes that the person will see how great of a person you are and how much you care. You very well may be a great person with outstanding qualities, but what you have to realize is that you can't make someone see that you're worth their time, energy, etc. If the person isn't interested, cool, he/she just isn't interested. Accept that and keep it moving. It doesn't mean that something is wrong with you. It just means that's not the person for you, and that is ok. Don't be out there making a fool of yourself, trying to make somebody fall for you. Stop giving your love, attention, time, etc. to people who don't want it or appreciate it, and then get upset when it's not reciprocated. Instead of getting upset at the lack of reciprocation, ask yourself why you continuously try to force something that's not meant to happen. Relationships shouldn't be forced. Care about yourself enough to walk away. Stop looking to others for validation. Realize all that you have to offer, and know that you'll be great for somebody else. Yeah, it may pinch you pride a little to know that Jethro or Pollie doesn't want you, but that too shall pass. And should you REALLY become down, always remember June from Honey Boo Boo. She has Sugar Bear......

There's hope. (June and Sugar Bear)
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Now that this has sunk in, remember that there is somebody for everybody. You shouldn't have to chase, convince, or beg a person to be with you. If you have to do that, more than likely, that is NOT the person for you. Stop trying to lift mountains for people who won't even lift a finger for you. If someone doesn't appreciate the effort you are putting forth, take you and your effort elsewhere. Eventually, you will find someone who appreciates and wants you just as much as you want them. That, my friends, is something worth waiting for.

"I can only show you something real. I can't make you appreciate it." - Unknown