A Slave to Potential and UOENO It

"Girl, I am so tired of Joe! I am done this time. For real!"

"Man, I'm done with Brenda. She's too crazy."

Yeah you're done alright...This week.

I'm pretty sure we've all heard someone say this before...more than once. Heck, you have probably said it yourself a time or 10! Time and time again you or someone you know constantly goes back and forth with somebody. A person can have a million and eighteen reasons to leave, but if they can think of one reason to stay, they will. Why is that? I think it has a lot to do with potential, and that potential can cause someone to hold on to something that he/she really needs to let go.

Potential causes one to think about what could be. Sometimes we see people for who they can be rather than who they are now. I mean  the person doesn't have a whole lot going for themselves right now, but they have potential! Ehh, potential is great. Don't get me wrong. But potential is just that, potential. Qualities that MAY be developed and lead to future usefulness. It's not definite  It's not set in stone. Eight years have passed by and you're still sitting there talking about, "Yeah, Bobby/ Barbara Jean just has so much potential." I mean, we get that, but just how long are you willing to wait until Bobby/Barbara Jean taps into this potential?

You have to know when to let go. Take something for what it is and move on. Don't let the thought of who a person COULD be in the future distract you from who they are now. AND don't let that potential you see have you thinking you can change a person! This is where people go wrong. You can't make anybody change. If you see how a person is before you get with him/her, don't go whining and complaining after you get with them. I mean, you saw how this person was from the jump! You knew Joey liked to smoke and chill with his homies all day. So, you get with him and then complain about him smoking and chilling with his buds all day. "Girl, all Joey do is sit around and smoke." Uhh, Brenda, Joey was doing that when you met him in '96! Either you get with someone and accept them as they are or carry on about your business and move to the next. Just a tip, the people who end up changing people never go in thinking that they can or will. They simply accept the person as he or she is, and that alone makes the other person want to do better. Take Nick and Mariah for instance. He said being with her made him want to become a better man. She didn't try to change him. So, stop thinking you can change a person. If you don't like a lot of the things they do now, don't get with them expecting them to do a 180. You just keep chugging along!

So, don't you be a slave to "potential" clinging to someone you need to let go of or wasting time trying to change somebody! Just keep it moving! Don't let this be you!

Don't let this be you! (Photo:Google)